So much has changed!

Yep, it's been a while since I posted on my blog. It all changed when a really great guy came back into my life after being gone from it for quite a while. I had trouble blogging about my single life as I really wasn't single and things were moving VERY fast. It's like you know when you've met the person that you're going to spend the rest of your life with. Of course, in true Jonya fashion, I held off admitting how I felt and still had the walls up. I don't always believe in happily ever after. I love romance and believe in love, but up until now I didn't get it!

The other reason I was gone was I was very sick during this time. I had bronchitis, the flu, pneumonia and H1N1. Through it all Robert was there to take care of me and the dogs.

Speaking of the dogs, they LOVE Robert more than they love me. Yep, it's hard to swallow.

I received a promise ring and then Robert proposed. Our wedding date is June 30, 2012 (in case you've been under a rock or don't have facebook).

I have been asked over and over if I'm going to start a new blog. I have given it a lot of thought and I think that I will. The trick is that I'm an open book and Robert and his daughter (yes, I will have the title of step-mom) are very private. I want to blog about this new thing in my live called love, starting over and being married again, being a step mom and all that comes with that, and the challenges of going from me and the dogs to Robert, his daughter Delaney, his daughter Michelle (whom is older and I have yet to meet), my cat Willow and a HOUSE with a WASHER AND DRYER! And, the joys of planning a wedding.

I will of course post on facebook when I get it all set up and ready to go.

Thanks for reading my single city princess blog and allowing me to share!

Sexy Dad's

I think all of us girls have been there. We see a guy holding a baby and we melt. Well, now that I'm older it's not just babies. This comes to mind when Robert is with his daughter, Delaney. She's so smart, fun and I love when she and her dad laugh and kid each other. He goes to her soccer practices AND games. He's friends with her friends on facebook so he can be involved in her life. Since she lives with her Mom he isn't there to tuck her in so he sends a text EVERY night telling her he loves her. Seeing them together makes my heart go all funny.

I also get that feeling when Baby Sixx fights for room on the couch...right between us...and it isn't so she can make goo goo eyes at ME! And when Monkey wants nothing more than to have Robert rub his ears for HOURS at a time. They see Robert and they go bonkers with happiness and love.

I'm proclaiming and making it fact...Dad's are sexy!

Journey

I wish I could post pictures of my before and after of my breast reduction. Not to share TMI but to brag about this incredible journey I went through. Yes, I know others have gone before me, but for me it has truly been life changing!

The first part of the journey was just deciding that I was ready to have it done and making the appointment with the surgeon. I took matters into my own hands when my PCP told me that I had to loose all kinds of weight and that I had to see a PT, etc. After loosing around 25lbs and being told I had to lose another 25lbs I asked to see the surgeon and to determine how much I had to go through to make this happen. He said that he was not concerned about my weight, was so positive that insurance would pay for it I signed all papers that day!

The second part of the process was a little bit more intense. It was actually having the surgery but also recovery. I can't really say I had "pain" but the recovery process and being limited in my actions was extremely hard, especially living alone and hating to ask for help. I learned so much about myself, what I can endure, that I don't do pain well and that my Mom is the best Mom in the world! I also learned that I am blessed beyond words for all the people that care and love me!

This third part of the journey has been the most rewarding, but also the most mind boggling. None of my clothes fit. I don't have any clothes. When I started to really look through my closet to determine how I made it through the winter last year I remembered that I have always worn jackets, sweaters and anything else that would cover me. I don't think I really thought about how much I covered my girls. Now that I'm more confident I don't go to the cover up jacket but ready to wear a normal shirt and outfit.

As my BFF pointed out she would love to have a reason like this to go shopping. I agree, but I did have to pay quite a bit out of pocket for my surgery that I'm paying back. With that said, I am working on my wardrobe one article of clothing at a time along with the new me!

I've had a lot of life changing experiences in the last month. Most wonderful, but some really hard and sad. I guess that's what life is all about? I'm so thankful that I was given the opportunity to experience this journey!

In a blink of an eye

I had the pleasure of cooking for Robert and his daughter last night. Then a funny game of bowling on the Wii and then I sat and watched the two of them battle it out over all the other sports. I love watching the two of them together.

Sitting there listening to Robert curse and his daughter giggle (shes almost 14) I thought about how much my life has changed in such a short period of time. A month ago I had decided that I didn't want to date, that I was OK being alone and I was happy. In a blink of an eye I have a boyfriend and this really great adolescent in my life making me realize that I was fooling myself.

I'm so thankful I blinked!

Good-byes

I dislike good-byes. But I especially dislike them when people leave your life and you don't know exactly what you did. It especially hurts when people are hurt by something you did or said, or you made them really mad but they don't bother to give you a chance to explain or make it right. They are just gone out of your life. Most head people will say that they weren't worth your time and be glad their gone. But I feel different. I feel empty when someone was there and then gone.

This week I've lost a lot of good friends. One I didn't even know I had hurt. Two are upset because I can't make time for them anymore, another one I have no idea and the one that I can't get over blew something so very small into something so very big I can't even understander what happen?

I'm blessed for the people in my life and will continue to pray that the ones that have left will some day find their way back.

In the midst of all of this pain, I'm happy and have a wonderful boyfriend who loves me unconditionally. The big test? He took care of me when I had the flu...puking, smelled funky, crying, told him I'm dying flu!! Yep, it's LOVE!

In love

Yes, I've been MIA. That's what happens when you fall in love. You have 20+hrs on your DVR that is waiting to be watched, you forget to call your friends and check in on them, you forget birthdays, anniversary's and appointments. My entire life is on hold because I'm in LOVE. And just for the record, I kind of like it!

Mice

I've had an outbreak of mice in my apartment. When Jason, the apartment facilities main guy came to check it out he found a HUGE hole behind my stove and made arrangements to take care of it. In that conversation I said that I thought there would be more as they were babies. He asked how little and I showed him the inside palm of my hand. He laughed pretty hard and said that I must be use to field mice or barn mice. The mice I saw were "city" mice and full grown!

Who knew? Geesh! He probably went back and laughed with all the other office staff at me for saying they were "babies". Truly can't win. Either I'm a hick from the sticks or a city princess!